In the toxic age of social media: Facebook,Twitter and Instagram have groomed an odd complex generation of self obsessed young adults who walk a thin line between obnoxious conceitedness and crippling insecurity. But this probably didn’t start with social media, it just became easier for people to be a–holes online and project their insecurities. In the grand scheme of life – none of this matters, ten years from now how many likes you got on Instagram or the mean comment you sent to someone on Twitter won’t matter, this is why I stopped giving a f–k what people think, and here’s why you should too.
Everyone’s got an opinion
Humans are naturally critical, we have an innate desire to judge and size up everyone we come into contact with. Learn to expect criticism. The emperor has no clothes, yet brags on and on about how glorious his appearance is in front of whimpering followers and bigots alike. Imagine being on the receiving end of a narcissist’s wrath, but for no apparent reason.
It’s Probably Not About You
When someone says something bad about you, most times its commentary on their own flaws and shortcomings that they have not made peace with. You’re a mirror for them and show them everything about themselves that they hate and fear, it’s their issue, not your’s. They underestimate certain kinds of people, but at a later point in time they see them as a threat. They fear any and every one, especially those bold enough to strike out on their own or challenge the ego-driven pricks.
They Hate You Because of Something You Have
Your new car, that new town house, the latest Apple flagship device or designer items, you possess something they don’t – and that upsets them. They realize that life can be unfair and some people can have things that others can’t. They cant attain these things and innately become very angry. To help themselves cope with this sense of frustration, they hate. This is how they deal with their feelings of inadequacy and inferiority after comparing themselves with others — by putting it on you.
Because They Don’t Think you Deserve It
They look at your life, popularity, relationship, possessions and come to the conclusion that you’re not deserving or worthy of having such a high self esteem. They don’t care about the hard work or sacrifices you’ve put in, because they are superficial and one track minded like that.
They Have Nothing Better To Do In Life
And we should take pity on them really. People will become so invested in their social media lives that they lose track of their real life and goals, twenty and thirty somethings with no real career path or goals. The lowest of them scoop to personally attacking people with different opinions, these activities give them that momentary sense of purpose and achievement in life. Keep doing whatever the f–k makes you happy.
Because they are unhappy with some things in their own life
And they try to make you unhappy too by being the nuisances that they are. They commit to pulling everyone down to their level of sleepless nights and dissatisfaction. They have mustered a need to put others down to feel better about themselves, don’t allow them to.
Authenticity is Sovereign
I spent the bulk of my teenage years trying to be a people pleaser. I tried to make everyone else happy and sold my own ideologies and ideals out, and those were the most miserable years of my life. So I decided to stay true to myself, the more I did that the more successful and rewarding life became. Taking the decision to stand out from the crowd might leave you feeling ostracized, but take comfort in the fact that the people who are shutting you out were never willing to appreciate you. Embrace your flaws, celebrate your accomplishments, always stay true – continue not giving a f–k.