Condoms Unwrapped

The messages are everywhere, chances are you have probably heard at least one time in your life an ad campaign aimed at promoting condom use to prevent the spread of HIV and other STIs. Usually in hook-ups, condoms are expected – but, what about in a relationship? There exists a taboo among gay men surrounding condom usage…

The Mini Guide to Virgin Sex; and those who have sex with them

The stigma that surrounds having sex with virgins or being a virgin is timeless. As far back as history records, virgins have been used for sacrificing, insuring a valid marriage, make for better sex…or can cure HIV. But this blog is not about these ridiculous values or myths, it’s about having sex with virgins: a…

10 Tips for Satisfying Anal Sex

1. If you are unsure of the HIV status of your partner, you should always use condoms. A single unprotected intercourse session could result in infection. 2. Use water or silicon-based lubricants in significant quantities. Both oils and petroleum jelly do reduce any condom protective capacity quickly. You may lubricate your penis itself or the condom. But take…

Gay Sex Positions Guide

There are four main ways to make love: standing, kneeling, sitting or lying. According to the Gay Kama Sutra the most comfortable sex position depends mostly on the height and weight of both partners. If one of the lovers is a well-grown, but the other’s stature is short, then some sex positions may be rather…

Gay For Pay – Or Just Bisexual?

To start things off, a gay man is a man who is sexually attracted to other men, with a heterosexual or straight man being exclusively attracted to women. The term bisexual is used to describe attraction both sexes. Gay-for-pay describes male or female actors, pornographic stars, or sex workers who self-identify as heterosexual but who are…

In Defense of Open Relationships

A common belief perpetuated widely in gay men is an insatiable sexual appetite fueled by lust, depravity and a general lack of morals which ultimately makes all gay men – sluts. This stigma has been used to fuel hate messages, anti-gay marriage campaigns and hurtful stereotypes that still linger in the community, being perpetuated not…

10 Things No One Tells You About Sex

1. Sex is messy. You have probably heard this idea a few times but porn is ruining our expectations of sex. Real sex with real people is messy, sweaty, grimy, hot and sometimes even uncomfortable. 2. Sex is a vulnerable and revealing act. If you have ever had sex with anyone who asks you to…

How To Be Better at Bottoming

The last post was dedicated to becoming better at topping, you can read it here just in case you missed it. But with that out of the way, sex still remains a two way street, so here’s part two on to become better at bottoming. Have you ever looked at gay porn and thought, “How can…

How To Be Better At Topping

For formality’s’ sake, a top is the partner doing the penetration during anal sex – this label is limited explicitly to sexual roles and says nothing about perceived masculinity or dominance in bed. Gay men usually seek to define their sexual role with labels like top, bottom and versatile to indicate their inclinations when it…

Not into Anal Sex? Do it like the Greeks!

During the ancient Greek period, anal sex was considered demeaning for the receiving partner, today in Western societies gay men, particularly black gay men, still hold this belief. A common misnomer among gay men and heterosexuals alike is that every gay man well, has to take it up the butt. Surprisingly, a pretty remarkable number…